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Why Dating Intentionally Saves You Time (and Heartbreak)

Posted on August 20, 2025August 20, 2025 by Amanda Hood

In today’s world of swiping, ghosting, and endless “situationships,” it’s easy to feel like dating has become more complicated than it needs to be. But here’s the truth: dating doesn’t have to feel like a part-time job. When you approach it with intention, you can save yourself not only time—but also a whole lot of heartache.

At The Crush Confidential, we talk often about the power of intentional dating. Instead of drifting from date to date hoping something clicks, intentional dating means having clarity about what you want and making choices that align with your long-term goals.

Here are a few ways intentional dating can change everything:

1. You Spend Less Time on the Wrong People

When you’re clear about your values, lifestyle, and relationship goals, you naturally filter out people who aren’t a fit. No more wasting months with someone who never wanted the same things as you in the first place.

2. You Protect Your Emotional Energy

Dating without direction can leave you drained and discouraged. Setting intentions helps you recognize early when a connection isn’t serving you, so you can gracefully walk away without second-guessing yourself.

3. You Gain Confidence in the Process

When you know what you’re looking for, each interaction becomes less about “Do they like me?” and more about “Do we fit together?” That mindset shift alone can make dating feel lighter and more empowering.

4. You Create Space for the Right Relationship

Intentionality isn’t about rushing. It’s about staying aligned with your goals and open to the right connection—even if it looks a little different than you imagined. (After all, love often surprises us in the best ways.)

At the end of the day, dating intentionally is about honoring your time, your energy, and your heart. It transforms dating from something overwhelming into something exciting—a purposeful journey toward the connection you deserve.

🖤 Ready to start dating with clarity and purpose? Sometimes the best step is simply slowing down, getting clear on what you want, and letting the right opportunities in.

Why We Encourage the 3-Date Rule (and What You Might Miss If You Don’t)

Posted on July 23, 2025July 23, 2025 by Amanda Hood

In today’s dating culture, people are quick to make snap judgments. One offhand comment, a slightly awkward moment, or an outfit you wouldn’t have picked yourself—and suddenly the verdict is in: “Not for me.”

At The Crush Confidential, we get it. You’re busy. You don’t want to waste your time. You want the spark, the butterflies, and the connection—now.

But here’s what we’ve learned from years of matchmaking high-intent singles:
The spark isn’t always instant. And that’s okay.

That’s why we encourage what we call the 3-Date Rule—a simple, intentional approach to dating that allows room for real connection to unfold.

Here’s why it works:

1. First Dates Are Often Just… Awkward

Even confident, successful people get nervous. And sometimes, those nerves come out in ways that don’t reflect who they really are—rambling, overtalking, under-talking, being overly formal, or trying too hard to impress.

Instead of asking, “Did I feel sparks?” try asking,
👉 “Do I feel curious enough to see this person again?”

2. Attraction Can Grow with Familiarity

We’ve seen it happen time and time again: a client who was on the fence after Date #1 calls us after Date #3 and says,
“Wow—I’m really into them.”

Emotional safety, subtle humor, shared values… these often take more than 90 minutes and a cocktail to show up. The 3-Date Rule creates space for attraction to move from surface-level to something more sustainable.

3. **You’ll Learn More About What You Want**

Even if a match doesn’t turn out to be the one, going on a few dates gives you more context:

How do you feel in their presence?
What values or energy clicked—or didn’t?
Did anything surprise you?

Dating intentionally is about refining your clarity, not chasing instant perfection.

4. It Shifts Your Focus from Performance to Connection

When you approach dating with a “one and done” mindset, it becomes transactional—like a constant audition.
But when you give yourself (and the other person) a little breathing room, you stop performing and start connecting.

Real relationships aren’t built on perfect banter. They’re built on trust, rhythm, and shared emotional space. That can’t always be rushed.

5. You Might Be Passing on Someone Truly Aligned

Amanda often reminds clients that she married her husband after just 5 months of dating—even though he didn’t check her “must be over 6 feet tall” box. If she’d dismissed him on Date 1 for not meeting that one (very specific) preference, she would’ve missed out on a life-changing connection.

You never know who someone really is—until you give them the chance to show up.

The Bottom Line

The 3-Date Rule isn’t about lowering your standards.
It’s about creating space for clarity.

So if you’re on the fence after a first date, ask yourself:
Is there enough curiosity to say yes one more time?

You might be surprised by what’s waiting on the other side of a second—or third—look.

How to Talk to Your Kids About Your Dating Life (Without the Guilt)

Posted on July 16, 2025July 16, 2025 by Amanda Hood

Dating as a single parent can be emotional—and not just for you. The thought of talking to your kids about your dating life can bring up uncertainty, awkwardness, or even guilt.

But here’s a gentle reminder:
You’re allowed to want love.
And showing your kids what healthy relationships look like—at any stage of life—is a powerful, positive thing.

Here are five thoughtful tips for navigating this conversation with honesty and care:

1. **Get Clear on How You Feel First**

Before bringing your kids into the conversation, take a moment to reflect on where you’re at emotionally. Are you excited? Nervous? Unsure? A little bit of everything?

Being aware of your own feelings helps you approach the topic calmly and intentionally. Kids pick up on energy more than words—so when you feel steady, it helps them feel safe.

2. Adjust the Conversation to Their Age

Younger kids don’t need details. Older kids might have more questions. Keeping the message age-appropriate can ease tension and make the conversation more natural.

Younger kids:
“I’m going to spend time with a new friend. It’s someone who makes me happy.”

Teens:
“I’ve decided to start dating again. It’s important for me to build connection, just like it is for anyone.”

You don’t need to over-explain. Just offer honest, simple information.

3. Reassure Them of Their Place in Your Life

One of the most important things kids need to hear is:
“You’re still my priority.”

Make it clear that dating doesn’t change how much they matter to you. Let them know that any relationship you pursue will only move forward if it’s healthy—for you and for them.

4. Don’t Introduce Everyone You Date

This one’s important: kids don’t need to meet every person you go on a few dates with. It’s often best to wait until a relationship feels stable before introducing someone new into your children’s world.

If and when you do make that introduction, keep it low-key. A short meeting at a neutral place (like a coffee shop or park) can feel more relaxed for everyone.

5. Make Space for Their Feelings

Even if you do everything “right,” your child might still feel uncomfortable, confused, or even upset. That’s okay. Let them feel what they feel without trying to fix it immediately.

You can say something like:
“I know this is new, and it’s okay to feel however you feel. I’m here to listen.”

A Final Thought

There’s no perfect script for this conversation, but the fact that you’re thinking about it means you care—and that matters most. You can be a loving, present parent and still make space for a fulfilling personal life.

It’s not about choosing one or the other. It’s about building a life where both can exist in harmony.

Featured on Now in the Nati: Why It’s Time for Single Parents to Prioritize Love

Posted on July 9, 2025July 9, 2025 by Amanda Hood

We were honored to be featured in Now in the Nati, where Amanda shared what it really looks like to date as a single parent—and why it’s more than just possible… it’s powerful.

At The Crush Confidential, 95% of our clients are single parents. That’s not a typo. Most of the incredible people we work with are juggling carpools, careers, and co-parenting—while still carving out space for love. And while that can feel daunting, it’s absolutely doable with the right mindset (and the right matchmaker).

Here’s the truth Amanda shared:
Lifestyle alignment is everything. When you’re a single parent, compatibility isn’t just about chemistry—it’s about rhythm. Does this person understand what your Tuesday night looks like with three kids and a soccer tournament? Are they someone who supports the kind of life you’ve built—not someone who makes you feel like you have to explain or apologize for it?

We don’t just match based on interests or physical attraction—we dig into how you live, what you value, and what your day-to-day really looks like. Because that’s what determines lasting connection.

And for our empty nesters, Amanda had another piece of advice:
Don’t box yourself in geographically.
Maybe your kids are grown. Maybe your life is more flexible than it’s ever been. This is your chance to expand your horizons. Your soulmate might not live in your zip code—or even your state. That’s why we encourage open minds and open hearts when it comes to location.

Finally, Amanda reminds single parents to prioritize their dating life. Yes, your time is limited. But love is not selfish. Making room for it doesn’t take away from your kids—it sets an example for what healthy, joyful relationships look like.

So if you’re a single parent who’s been putting love on the back burner, consider this your sign:
Your story isn’t on pause. It’s just beginning.

👉 Watch the full interview on Now in the Nati here:
The Crush Confidential on Dating as a Single Parent

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Why Dating Intentionally Saves You Time (and Heartbreak)